T.S. Eliot (via owls-love-tea)
Fyi, “You’re pretty for a ______________ girl,” is not a compliment. Whether you’re referring to size, race, or any other attribute, you’re basically pointing out something about them that isn’t normally part of your standards of beauty. So when you say things like, “She’s pretty for a big girl,” or “She’s pretty for an Asian girl,” you’re basically putting down everyone else that belongs in those groups, as well as telling the person that that particular attribute is unappealing when really everyone has different preferences and standards of beauty. Making backwards compliments doesn’t make you prettier or better, it makes you a condescending asshole. Don’t make backwards compliments.
Aradia, Gospel of the Witches (Charles G. Leland, 1899)